Friday, December 12, 2014

True Friends

 

 





     This time of year I am thinking about the friends that have been such a blessing in my life.  Friends come and friends go; there are very few really good ones who stick with you through thick and thin. Maybe a handful in your whole life, if you are very fortunate. I often wonder about the women I see on social media such as Facebook, Instagram, and various blogs, who appear to have hundreds of friends. I wonder how real that is. For me, acquaintances may be many, but close friends are few and far between. I tend to be cautious about who I allow into my inner circle; it takes a while for this native Missourian to warm up enough to allow someone access to my heart, because I consider calling someone a friend to be a really serious commitment. Isn't that why this is the "Show Me" state? We are slow to trust without first knowing there is a good basis for it.
     This year I have lost a couple of friends, or should I say I have discovered that they weren't really the friends that I thought they were. For me a friend is someone who will go the extra mile when you are going through tough times; they are just there for you. To me a friend will never let religion or politics come between you, but accepts you as you are, embracing even your differences. And most of all, for me anyway, a friend has to be someone who I want to emulate--someone with a kind and giving and wise heart. Friends are never users.  Friends are never accusers. Friends always believe the best of you, and you can trust them with any secret.  But then sometimes friends disappoint you.  That's just the way life happens to be.
     But sure enough, as soon as you let go of a friendship that has died a natural death, another, and better one, appears.  It helps to never have a bitter heart, and to be open and accepting of whoever God sends into your life.  I love to discover new friends--slowly and carefully-- and to learn so much about, and from, them.
     This week Sweetface and I were happily surprised to notice a new wreath sitting on top of our mailbox.  Every year for the past several years a certain couple has surprised us with one. This delightful retired couple have the habit of making gorgeous Christmas decorations and secretly dropping them off without a word like secret Elves.  You walk out to the mailbox one morning, and there it is, again! Happiness comes over you. You feel so loved. It is no small feat for them to do this, but they never fail.  They are such generous friends, with their time and effort.  We treasure them, and hope to find ways to return the love.
     This week was also my annual Baklava-making party, which is a big messy, laughing time in the kitchen.  Tina, being so Italian, happily talks with her hands while flinging butter and honey all over the place. Ruthie pours such energy into everything she does, laughing all the while. Janine works so hard at making her pan of baklava, talking in her high-pitched wavery voice so sweetly the whole time.  Christmas music plays in the background. It's a great time of carefree sharing of whatever ingredients someone forgot to bring while you make that treasured pan of delight. Since a couple of friends were sick or working, we will have another go at it in a week or two. 
     I am also thankful for the new internet friends who have come into my life this past year through this blog. I may never meet you in person, but I feel like I know you and would like to know you even more. I am hopeful that one day you will be in town and give me a call and we can "do lunch", or even go thrifting together.  I try to keep up with your blogs, too.  I really do treasure you who visit here, even if you never leave a comment--though I wish you would.  I hope you all had a wonderful year, full of many true friends, and that you will find at least one new friend very soon. 

17 comments:

  1. Hi Linda....Beautifully expressed! The older I get, the more important I realize my friends are. Without the natural opportunities for adding new friends (like college), it's more of a challenge now to find new ones. The search is on-going! And how wonderful to have friends who leave such gorgeous mailbox decorations; they are a treasure indeed. Thank you for another beautiful blog post! Cheryl (www.lonestarshopper.net)

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    1. Thanks, Cheryl. I love hearing from you!

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  2. I am a friend that will always be with you. I love you very much and I am so glad that you share all your wonderful gifts with me. I love being around you, I love that I always know that you are speaking the truth. Thanks for inviting me into your heart and into your journey with God. Love you my special friend. Teaching me how to bake Baklava was no easy task. psst... by the way I am Spanish, lol.
    Love, Me tb

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    1. Okay, granted--but you act like you are Italian when you cook. LOL!

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  3. What a sweet post and what sweet friends you do have! Looks like a great time.

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  4. I'm not one for shopping of any kind, and the photography gene absolutely missed me, but if I'm ever going to be in Missouri, I would wish that I could walk around in that glorious scenery with you and Ruthie while you go on one of those photography outings.

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    1. Just send me an email when you get here! :-) There are all kinds of exciting dirt roads and hills to explore around here.

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  5. Linda, You so wisely described my feelings about my few but treasured friends; I totally get what you are saying because I consider friends investments of my time & energy so I am slow to make friends but have ever so many acquaintances. I was truly blessed to have a dear friend return to my life this year and I feel so blessed by that experience. I am so enjoying your blog and wishing you the best of Holidays!!

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    1. How good it is to hear about your friend who was able to return into your life this year. What a huge blessings that is. Best wishes to you and yours, as well!

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  6. This was such a lovely post, Linda. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on friendship - I share your point of view. You and your friends look like you had a ball making baklava! Looks delicious.

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  7. Yes, and "A moment on the lips, forever on the hips." (I'm in big trouble!)

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  8. Thank you so much for sticking with us for the thick and thin. You are someone I always know will be there for me. What a blessing to have such a true friend for a Grandmother.
    ~Heidi

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  9. Yes, I will, indeed. Thank you for the most precious comment I have ever had on my blog, my Love. Grandmother

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  10. Linda, I consider finding your blog a little over a year ago to be such a wonderful blessing. Whether it be delicious recipes, pictures and stories of incredible friendships, adorable cat pics, eBay news, or most importantly when you've shared your heart (and I know that couldn't have been easy), I have felt blessed. Thank you!!!

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    1. How sweet! I do love your Ebay blog--its quite motivating, Kimberly. Keep up the good work.

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  11. Great post Linda, looks like you and the ladies had a great time in the kitchen baking ;-)

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